Last night, over dinner, I was talking about a random business idea brainstorm. My daughter cut me off, bitingly, and said, “yeah right, Mom, like you are actually going to do that! Just like your blog idea.” Ouch!
It was a gut punch. Though she certainly didn’t mean to make me feel like a failure, her assessment isn’t all that far off. I start things. I’m a really good starter! I like to take on new projects and new challenges. I like the creative process. I have big ideas, lots of them. But then…
I don’t really have a the best track record at the finishing stage. Sometimes, I think this is a valuable skill. As the proprietor at our favorite local bookshop said to me recently, there are too many great books in the world to waste your time on one that just isn’t that good. This felt like a little revelation to me, and also like a permission slip. Whew, so I don’t have to finish every bad book that I’ve started! What a “novel” idea! I guess that means that not doing a project that no longer feels right or meaningful is also OK.
Although it’s great to know I don’t have to finish bad novels or poorly written self help books, being a Finisher is definitely important. It is important to me that my kids see me as someone who commits and also follows through. Everything that I have done since they came into this world, has been to provide them with the best possible guidance and example. Surely, we all fail in some areas, but I definitely don’t want my kids to see me as someone who failed because she didn’t really fully try.
Finish, the book
Last summer, I read “Finish” by Jon Acuff. It’s a quick and easy read, and it’s all about this idea of not just starting things but finishing them. It’s tone is light and Jon is humorous, AND it is full of good info on why we don’t finish and ways to power through to become a finisher. Though, it seems that personally I also needed my daughter’s harsh insight to actually propel me forward.
If you haven’t read Finish, check it out: https://acuff.me/books/
In order to actually have a blog and consider myself a writer I need to actually share my writing. I’m committing to doing that regularly here. Of course, as a blog never really “ends” I guess I need to set some criteria to follow in order to give myself the Finisher status, and posting once a week is the plan for now. If you happen upon this blog in more than a week from this time and I haven’t posted, be sure to remind me that I’m merely a starter not a finisher!
Ready or not
Even though I don’t feel “ready” to do this, and I might not know the “right” way to be a writer yet, and my blog isn’t as beautifully designed as I might like, and I haven’t created an editorial calendar, and I could go on and on… Ready or not, I’m going to hit publish and achieve this mini goal for this week. See you next week!